Do you have a SHOULD story?
- I should be more outgoing
- My co-workers should pull their weight
- I should be saving more money
- My boss should listen to me more
- I should exercise more
- My spouse should be doing this instead of me
- I should be further along in my career
The goal is healthy. But the SHOULD is a demoralizing tactic to get yourself to act, because
- It hangs over your head.
- It’s vague. How much “more” would be enough?
- It’s grounded in fantasy, not reality.
- It’s discouraging. You’re always coming up short.
- It fosters having a low opinion of yourself.
- And even if it works, now you’re in a pickle, because you’ve set yourself for always using shoulds to get yourself to act! It’s a vicious cycle.
Is there something you have a SHOULD about?
Can you feel the weight of it?
Is it working in a satisfying way?
Imagine if you had a way to motivate yourself to act, without beating yourself up in the process. Wouldn’t that be invigorating? Maybe even fun?
Next Thursday (Feb. 27) I’m holding a workshop titled New Story, New You. In 60 minutes you’ll discover the 3 Types of Stories That Can Be Problematic. #2 on the list is “SHOULD stories”.
We’ll review all 3 types, and you’ll discover the best ways to transform each of them into a more motivating and empowering approach. Then you can start practicing and applying them for your specific situations.
What SHOULD story do you find yourself telling?
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To sign up for the workshop, go here. A recording is available to those who register.
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